"If you really like somebody and it goes both ways, but the guy's older (by 5 years) and ready to settle down and start having kids, but the girl is just graduating with her undergrad degree, how do you deal with a situation like that? She isn't ready to have children and stuff and he is, but she really likes him."
-Natalie, sophomore nursing major
Age differences can cause major difficulties in a relationship, and can even make or break how a couple works out in the long run. As much as you really like the other person, you have to be realistic - not as much about your age differences, but what the other person is looking for at any age.
A couple can be the same age and things might still not work out because one is looking for a much more serious relationship or commitment than the other.
Unless both people consciously realize this and are willing to sacrifice something, you can predict some level of resentment later in the relationship. Children are also something one person isn't likely to give up easily, so if one person has their heart set on having them, the other should at least be willing to consider it.
I would recommend that unless the older party consents to a more casual relationship, steer clear of getting more attached and starting a relationship. Though she might really like the guy, her disappointment now is nothing compared to what she'll feel if and when the relationship takes a turn for the worse.
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