Sweet eMoetions

???I have received several e-mails this week from students who are in need of some advice.

My first question is from a male and it goes like this:

???"I am having trouble finding women here at UB. There are many for me to have, but none of them find me attractive. I need help improving myself. I am unattractive, boring and a nerd. How can I better myself so I can find love?" -Prince Un-charming, a junior accounting major

???Listen here, buddy, being unattractive is one thing, but you can't be unattractive and boring. Women just can't get down with that.

???You see, we as men generally overestimate how important looks are to women. So as long as you are well groomed and your clothes aren't stained or filled with holes, you should have a good start.

???That being said, most women are more interested in a man's charm. Is he exciting? Does he make me laugh? Those are the questions women ask themselves. Your goal is to find a woman who will find you exciting and fun.

???Luckily for you, UB is full of different student groups and clubs that cater to almost every lifestyle. So what I want you to do is to look on the school's Web site and find different clubs and school events that match your interest.

???Once you do that, use your background of being a nerd to strike up an exciting conversation containing facts that will captivate her and not have her running for the nearest exit.

???Lastly, once you have selected the club you like and have chosen a female, make sure that you attend the meetings and events as much as possible. Psychologists say that, the more you are around someone, the more they start to become attracted to you.

???Now don't stalk the girl; girls hate creepers and all the progress you made will be gone. But if you ever happen to be in the same room or class, feel free to sit next to her or in her proximity.

???Feel free as well to write me back and tell me how it went.??

My next question is from a girl and it goes like this:

???"I am having trouble with my boyfriend. Every time he comes to my dorm he and my roommate always look at each other funny, like they are attracted to each other. Should I question both of them? She might be smaller than me and prettier but I thought he loved me." -Miss Suspicious, Freshman undecided major

???Now this situation is a little more complex than the previous one. Let's start with you and the boyfriend. Relationships should be built on trust, and if he has never cheated on you during your relationship, then I would just leave it alone.

???If you still feel uncomfortable with bringing him around your roommate, just don't bring him to your room as much.

???Regarding the situation with your roommate, it might just be the classic case of she wants what she can't have, and by not bringing your boyfriend around as much the problem can be solved.

???But there is always an exception to any rule. If your roommate is one of those people who is always stealing your clothes and stealing the snacks from your parents' care packages, then you need to watch out because she will try to steal your man. And if your boyfriend is no Boy Scout and he has cheated on you before, then you might have a legitimate problem.

???To solve this, it is important to catch them in the act. Some might call this entrapment, but honestly there is no such thing as setting a person up in this situation.

???So I want you to invest in a tape recorder, and the next time that both of them are in a room together, place the recorder down and excuse yourself from the room. Tell them you're going to the laundry room or something.

???Do not play the tape when you get back, but wait until you are by yourself. This is important because if they didn't do anything, you haven't made a big fool of yourself.

???If you find out they did do something, then it's up to you if you want to move on.

Having relationship problems? Need some advice on love? Send "sweet eMoetion" your problems and he might answer them in a future issue of The Spectrum.

Send your questions about life, lust and love to: Sweetemoetion@gmail.com.

Disclaimer: Sweet eMOEtion is in no way a professional love advice giver. Neither he nor The Spectrum is responsible for any situation that arises due to his advice.